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Who are YOU, do YOU know?
By Valerie Stancill

I am not sure who I am… I was a friend, wife, and lover; now I am lonely and shackled with pain. I recently lost my husband (Benjamin/Benny) of 25 years (total time together 33 years) to a horrible disease. 

When we first were told of his disease, we had no idea what the future held or the devastation this disease would cause. We went through many trials and tribulations, but our love for God and each other prevailed through it all. Benny gave his life to the Lord during his first hospitalization (2001), which was the beginning of his metamorphosis. 
I would often think “I don’t wear a mask,” because I often associated it with being phony, conceited, or thinking higher of yourself than you should. I then looked in the mirror and realized that Valerie was hiding behind a mask. My mask was to cover the pain and hurt I felt because my husband was critically ill. I couldn’t let him see me fragile, hurting, crying, and worried about him. I had to be strong and fight against this disease. Not only did I wear a mask, but at times I felt like I wore body amour. I was hurting, worried, and afraid for my husband. 

I am a healthcare professional, and sometimes when you know too much, it’s detrimental. Each time they gave him a report, we would both cringe. I would say to myself “Oh my God, did they just say…”  I would hear a report and think “Oh no,” but God would supersede my thought and remind me who we serve. We can do all things with Christ was one of our many confessions through the years.
The day I realized I was wearing a mask, I looked in the mirror and said “Are you sure You are You?” I am my future; I want to be the woman God wants me to be. I will no longer wear a mask to represent who or what people think I should be. I choose to be mask free and be the woman God called me to be. I am strong, confident, fragile, emotional, and knowledgeable. I cry, hurt, laugh, and get angry, but this is who God created me to be. All of these things, and more, make me who I am. Who am I to question how God made me.

No longer a mask wearer, I have been loosed…. To read Valerie's biography, click here>>

Like Valerie, the moment you make a decision to take off the mask and face reality, by facing and accepting the truth, your situation will change for the better and so will you! 
Dare To Be Different!

Stacey Lunsford

Are Ready You
To Take Off Your Mask
And Share Your Story
Pulmonary Hypertension Awareness
When you look in the mirror, who do you see? 

Will the real you please
take off your mask?

The day I realized I was wearing a mask...

I looked in the mirror and said, Are You Sure 
You Are You?

I am my future!

I want to be the woman God wants me to be!

~ Valerie Stancill ~ 
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Dare To Be Different
Valerie Stancill is the founder of What Are U Eating, LLC, a holistic health and wellness business committed to helping people regain control of their lives and health by making healthy food choices. 

Valerie is the CEO/Founder of Who Ordered These Shoes? www.facebook.com/WhoOrderedTheseShoes

Valerie is a writer for F.O.C.U.S.E.D. Plans Magazine www.focusedplans.net 

Contact Valerie: valerie.whatareueating@gmail.com

He began to know Jesus as his Savior, and later He became his Lord. I saw a man who was angry, bitter, and hurting from what others did to him change into an awesome man of God. Benny became a man who gave his life to the Lord and left a legacy for years to come.

I am writing all this to tell you about wearing a mask. I know you have often heard statements about “taking off your mask” or questions about whether “you are wearing a mask.” You may think “I don’t know what they mean, I don’t do that.” But when you look in the mirror, who do you see? Will the real you please take off your mask… 
Valerie Stancill

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In Memory Of My Husband